Wife leaving me and having heart broken issues with it?

if she weren't still seeing the other guy and doing pot she wouldn't have any reason to go. on the other hand she doesn't want to burn all her bridges with you in case she has to come back. why would you want to give financial help to someone who is hurting you like this. best if she is walking out on you to hurry up and get the divorce, as she may change her mind and try to take you for everything you have. of course she is going to tell you she isn't doing pot and the affair is over with because these are both things that would be considered grounds for divorce.